Thursday, January 25, 2007

An Empty Seat on the Bus

My friend has died of breast cancer after all these years. She always gave Life her best. I talked to her on the phone the last week, and I’m glad I did. I could tell it was getting close. She was full of emotional intensity. She was telling me what to do with my life and she wasn’t making a lot of sense. Her liver function was at 1 on a scale of 1 to 10.

She died early in the morning just a couple of days later. She didn’t want to die in the hospital, but she had somehow turned it into her home. She had photographs of family and friends on poster boards all over the room. The nursing staff had become part of her extended family. They were constantly in her room. The oncologist was reviewing his drug list and had come up with a chemo-drug that she had received only a few times. He was unwilling to let her go, and so was she, but the body can only take so much. She taught me that it can take a lot.

For people with breast cancer, I am linking to her monograph on xeloda that I posted last year and re-posted in September. She was very practical and very determined to live and live well. You could do worse than to read her advice. I wouldn’t mind hearing a little more of it now, myself.

1/24/2007 11:58 PM

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8 Comments:

At Friday, January 26, 2007 8:10:00 AM, Blogger Steve said...

Sorry about your friend,JJ.

 
At Saturday, January 27, 2007 3:17:00 AM, Blogger jj mollo said...

Thanks for your concern. I am sad and will miss her for life.

 
At Monday, January 29, 2007 10:31:00 PM, Blogger Horace Jeffery Hodges said...

JJ, sorry to learn of this. My older brother's wife has been struggling with recurrent bouts of cancer for several years now, so I can partly imagine how you feel.

Jeffery Hodges

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At Thursday, February 01, 2007 12:47:00 AM, Blogger jj mollo said...

They have my sympathy -- fighting, fighting, always fighting, for just a little more time -- its not a way to live. Life is still too mean, brutish and short. The human race has my sympathy.

 
At Thursday, February 01, 2007 6:24:00 PM, Blogger mal said...

Damn.... There is never any thing adequate to say.

I am always amazed at the hidden depths of the human spirit when faced with adversity

Breast Cancer is something of a crusade among some womens groups. Sadly, almost 10% of the cases are among men and although not as emotionally draining as it is for women, the symptoms are often missed until too late.

 
At Thursday, February 01, 2007 6:26:00 PM, Blogger mal said...

Damn.... There is never any thing adequate to say.

I am always amazed at the hidden depths of the human spirit when faced with adversity

Breast Cancer is something of a crusade among some womens groups. Sadly, almost 10% of the cases are among men and although not as emotionally draining as it is for women, the symptoms are often missed until too late.

 
At Thursday, February 01, 2007 6:26:00 PM, Blogger mal said...

Damn.... There is never any thing adequate to say.

I am always amazed at the hidden depths of the human spirit when faced with adversity

Breast Cancer is something of a crusade among some womens groups. Sadly, almost 10% of the cases are among men and although not as emotionally draining as it is for women, the symptoms are often missed until too late.

 
At Thursday, February 01, 2007 7:23:00 PM, Blogger mal said...

Damn.... There is never any thing adequate to say.

I am always amazed at the hidden depths of the human spirit when faced with adversity

Breast Cancer is something of a crusade among some womens groups. Sadly, almost 10% of the cases are among men and although not as emotionally draining as it is for women, the symptoms are often missed until too late.

 

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